Resolve or Regret

So many people have regrets. Feel sad, guilty or disappointed with the way things went and to do even guilt or not to do something that would lead to a different conclusion. Their lives are polluted by thoughts of the past and "what if".

Regrets can about the decisions whether they have made with regard to their career or partner. Others provide for any losses or missed opportunities. A third group will feel bad for the words that were said or did not say.

The past, of course, cannot be changed, but there are things you can do, problems and / or bad to be solved:

1. Check your perspective - Sometimes we cling things that others long forgotten or exaggerate their importance or impact. Keeping everything inside, without things through or looking for objective advice speak to distorted perceptions. The pain fester and grow. Think what bothers written most, and summarized in one sentence. In this way, you have clarity. Then consult with someone who can provide wise counsel and help you draw the possibilities into consideration.

2. Assign - The only way to be truly free is to himself and to forgive those who have hurt you. This does not mean that you forget what happened. You need to remember, so you do not end up in a similar situation in the future. If you are able to learn to replace them with you for the lessons regret, you will know that you have turned the corner.

3. Let Go - If another person or an event makes you be emotionally attached, then you've lost control. Do not let your time, emotions or energy continues to be caught by something that is past. Make a list of emotions that you feel when you think about what has happened, and then you make a promise to yourself that you move. The opposite of love is not hate - its apathy and if you are able to see the situation without the emotional turmoil, you are on the way!

4. Commit to change - Develop a plan for the future to prevent similar problems occur. For example, if you feel bad, because someone before he died a chance then prohibit the carryover of interfering with other relationships to visit. We are determined to do things before the time and the opportunities to pass.

If you feel like a victim and add the anger or pain that you end up with resentment or self-pity. These were very negative, that your health steal.

Unfortunately, things happen in life that do not resolve on their own. It take up to you good choices so that each day with hope and laughter to face able!

Is there something that you have to hold back, to be solved? If so, today is a good day to deal with him.